Your emotions are yours and yours alone, so how do you feel today? Did you know that you can consciously decide how you feel? Or you can just let people around you influence you and decide how you feel for you.
Just watch your thoughts for a day or two and notice how you react to other people and to situations, emails and phone calls. Are you really the boss of how you feel?
Try a few things quickly now….
- Say to your self – “I choose to be happy now” and observe your feelings
- Next say to yourself “I choose to be sad now” and again observe your feelings.
- Now quickly go back and repeat the happy again!
Even your posture changes with how you decide to feel.
Someone emailed me once telling me that she could not quit smoking because I had made her feel guilty by showing her a list of what chemicals are found in cigarettes. It was her choice to feel guilty and to use that as an excuse to smoke; I cannot “make” anyone feel any emotion. If I could, I would give up this job because the responsibility of controlling someone else’s emotions would be much too great. Remember emotions are yours and yours alone.
I choose to be happy now so be happy with me
And yes, I understand that some people find this hard because of stress and/or massive past trauma and PTSD and if this is you, then I can help. In the meantime, stand taller and think of things to be grateful for – that does help until you can come for help. I have been there and I “get it” and I have trained as a trauma specialist.
P.S. For all your lovely people who have quit smoking here are some statistics you have contributed to … the number of smokers in South Australia was lower than ever before, according to the latest statistics released earlier this year, with just 15.7 per cent of South Australians identifying themselves as smokers in 2014, compared to 19.4 per cent in 2013.