Ask yourself how much your weight loss is blocked by self abuse? Do you have a bully that lurks within your mind? Your stories put on more weight than party goodies.
As we look at our bodies outside of our winter wraps many of us find that we have very sensibly insulated ourselves by a kilo or two.
Some of us bring out the abusive bully that lurks in our minds. “OMG… you look so fat!” etc. etc. If that is you STOP NOW!
What you think about is what your unconscious mind thinks so if you are wanting weightloss you want so think thin instead.
Tell yourself great, warmer weather is coming and I will lose that insulation. It will be easy and natural. Your body automatically changes your “quilt” thickness as the weather changes… if you let it and you avoid that self-abuse.
The stories you tell yourself matter because it is about the belief or fantasy behind those stories.
Someone else with the same weight and body shape as you but with a different belief would have told a very different story. They would have stopped that bully quick smart.
I heard a wonderful example of this recently. A woman was hiking with a friend. They encountered a fence and the friend started to climb through it. The first woman panicked and stopped her.
When they sorted things out it turned out that her friend had grown up on a farm. Her belief was “fences are to keep animals in.” As a city bred girl, the first woman’s belief was “fences are to keep people out.”
The story could have been about how angry she was that she couldn’t get close to the pretty pond because it was fenced in. The friend’s story would have been about her pleasant visit to that lovely little pond.
The difference was just a story. Only the fence was real.
Always keep your ear open for that self-abusive bully that lurks within. And question those beliefs behind the distressing stories you tell yourself.
It may be hard to give them up even if they no longer fit the circumstances of your life.
It is harder to give up the beliefs than the extra party goodies