“Yes, I am wise, but it is wisdom born of pain” is a line from Helen Reddy’s song “I am woman” and it is so very true of me. It is also what makes me very good at helping people to escape from anxiety.
I had the experience of spending many years living with complex PTSD, being disabled as a small child wearing callipers to my waist and dyslexic. Having had a bad start, I was vulnerable and had 3 abusive marriages plus breast cancer and many broken bones. This is a pattern that I see in so many of my anxiety and trauma clients.
Recovering and letting go of the past gave me the wisdom to truly understand where anxious and traumatised clients are coming from. My absolute passion is helping people who have been bullied and abused to become the stronger, wiser selves they were always meant to be.
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This program uses a simple step by step process with eight easy modules, each broken into bite sized pieces which are clear and simple on every device, mobile phone, tablet or computer.
You don’t need any computer skills, watch the videos, follow the process, don’t be tempted to take short cuts… just trust the process because it works.
Ask if you do need help. I am with you all the way to answer questions and hold out my hand to help you across difficult areas but I am not psychic and can’t help if you don’t ask.
We all know that anxiety can make us:
- Feel afraid at times
- Worry constantly
- Be nervous all the time
- Then there are the physical symptoms like being short of breath, having chest pains
But there are some lesser-known ways that anxiety can show up in your life, too.
These are the EIGHT Sneaky Symptoms of Anxiety Everyone Should know…
- The need to perfect and control every situation
- Stressed, overwhelmed, frantic and always busy!
- Procrastination – put off things that should be done
- Unfinished projects left hanging
- Social withdrawal – avoid situations and events that would normally be enjoyed
- Snappy and irritable
- Hypervigilance – constant fear of the worst and over-thinking of every situation
- Poor- quality sleep
Escape from Anxiety teaches you supported self-hypnosis to change how you think and act and refocus your thought processes, helping you feel safe and secure.
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And there is a very good reason why people extra stressed and anxious since Covid entered our world.
It’s something called Hypervigilance. Our brains are wired to notice and remember threats and to take fight, flight or freeze actions. And those of us have had past traumas that make us even more alert; we are all seeing a whole list of new threats.
Hypervigilance drains our energy. And this can also put stress on our immune systems which is the last thing we need right now.
You can limit this by:
- Knowing you have changed your habits to reduce risk… hand washing, social distancing
- Making sure you eat and sleep well
- Becoming aware when we go into alarm mode, ground your feet and deliberately breathe slowly
- And stick to your safety rules
- Turn off the news and unfriend the negative social media.
YES you can fix this. you can escape from anxiety using the very same process that I used to heal my lifelong anxiety and PTSD. It is a simple step by step process. All you need to do is to trust the process and follow it step by step without taking shortcuts and leaving bits out.
This works so long as you simply follow the step by step process.
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Sue first came to me to Quit Smoking, This worked wonderfully.
Then she came back later to deal with a lifetime of anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Her life has been transformed.
She had suffered ongoing sexual abuse form older family members all her childhood.
She had suffered ongoing sexual abuse from older family members all her childhood. which left her with severe ongoing anxiety and PTSD.
With PTSD the stress is held in all the cells of your body and until it is released that memory is never resolved. The stress and trauma is never over.
sue imagined she was in a movie scene under hypnosis to rescue her younger abused self from the situation, then went in to deal with those perpetrators as an empowered adult.
When Margaret was suddenly widowed
When Margaret was suddenly widowed she was grieving and felt totally overwhelmed by running a successful winery that had always been her husband’s domain and being surrounded by wine. She became dependent on drinking for a short while. She and her husband owned a successful winery and Margaret found some 'me" time when she drank some of the wine she was surrounded by. This did become addictive. She is very well now.
People who are very stressed often look for some “me” time or a “safe place” with a drink or cigarette. I really enjoy a game of solitaire on my IPad as a quick form of relaxation but I recognise that this can become addictive if I am over tired.
I have worked with several professional people like accountants and lawyers who used alcohol to relieve the stress of their every day life until it got out of control putting enormous pressure on their families as well as themselves.
Stress needs to be managed. It is like filling up a balloon; if you keep filling it more and more without releasing some regularly it reaches bursting point. You do need to be careful what you choose for your release mechanism, make sure it is safe and use it in small amounts often.
Lizzy suffered almost unbelievable trauma
Lizzy came to see me for help to reduce her drinking. She had been treated for breast cancer with a double mastectomy leaving her with very ugly and lumpy scars. She was ashamed of her body and was trying to hide it from her husband. Her marriage had become very uncertain.
What had happened to her as an Aussie girl in her early 20s working in London was a massive trauma. She was abducted from the street, imprisoned for 3 days and raped multiple times. She managed to escape thankfully.
Her family gave her no support because they just said " well it over now" so don't go on thinking about it".
Trauma like that is not stored and put away neatly in the past. It remains current and is held in the tissues of the body.
As I am also a breast cancer survivor who had a double mastectomy, she immediately realised the "I get it".
Hypnotherapy helped her to get the relief of finally knowing it is over and she came to love and care for her body again. He relationship with her husband also healed.
A busy and stressed accountant
Fred owns a busy accountancy practice with very efficient staff and a well run office.
He however he was overwhelmed. He had was taking home his client’s problems leaving him feeling as though he was in a “vortex” or whiling thoughts and worries. This is classic trauma.
The only way he thought he could cope with this was to drink, which he did at lunchtime, after work and at weekends – in ever increasing amounts.
I used a combination of business coaching around the rule that you “don’t take on the problem if the problem isn’t yours" and added hypnotherapy to break the alcohol habit – job done! Fred is now coping well in his business, has lost weight and no longer drinks. That also saved his marriage which has been on the rocks due to the drinking and general stress overload.
Managers and professionals like accountants, lawyers, doctors and many others are trained in their professions but the commonsense business management training Is often missing. I know because I had to learn this the hard way 20 years ago so I got help from business coaches and consultants that was worth every cent that I spent. and I spent 10 years as a business management consultant before I returned to my true love of getting out minds and bodies to work together
Maria’s wonderful transformation
Maria came to see me with PTSD, diabetes and weighing 94kgs. She had suffered domestic violence, sex abuse and 2 very violent marriages. She wanted to get a degree, a professional career, lose weight and be free from stress and insecurity. Now she weighs 71kgs, no longer has diabetes, is successfully studying part time for her degree as well as working full time with high need families and running her household with a loving husband and children. Under hypnosis she put all her abusers into a box and kicked and spat on them until they all blew away as tiny fragments. She was free of the past, it was over.
Later I received a letter...Hi Jean,
Just to let you know that I am grateful for all your support and treatment on my lifelong journey. I recently had the pleasure of meeting my past abusers recently at a 70th birthday party. I was actually shocked that, I even received an invite. The agenda before the party was hidden, but transpired on the spot. I believe it was your guiding words that I secured the belief, “I was born ready!” I handled myself with pose, confidence and God’s unending grace. The abusers are a mere old, demoralised and lonely old group of folk that provoked nothing more than compassion from myself.
I stood with my head held high, responded to their probing questions with grace and informed them of my wonderful, pleasant, loving family and lifestyle. Just before we left, an Aunty, tapped my arm and said, “your father would have been so proud.” (My father suffered a violent suicide when I was 16 years old). My response, I know that!
You see my experiences up until that point revolved around “those family members” in some way. At this particular point, I truely understood those people have, in no way, have anymore power. You gave me that strength, thank you, I will forever be great full. Know that I think of you often.